As originally created, the male and female were to complete the other. As such, they fulfilled their God-ordained purpose of procreating and subduing the earth. Neither was to seek the other´s position, but as half of a whole, they were to complement each other. When sin entered into the world, their distinctive roles were blurred and their harmonious relationship distorted. Instead of working together in unity, they began to compete with each other. Instead of reflecting the glory of God, they began to mirror the corruption of sin. Their original “oneness” was replaced by a power struggle that has continued in society ever since. This struggle, although it does not always manifest itself overtly, lies just below the surface in even the best of marriages.
Consequently, many men, even Christians, “hardened through the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13), have engaged in the practice of “lording it over” their wives. On the other hand, many women, even Christians, have become “silly women laden with sins” (2 Timothy 3:6) and. as such, have not willingly submitted to the headship of their husbands. It is sad, but true, that many Christians, both males and females, instead of “prov[ing] what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:1), are actually being guided by current secular values. But we, of all people, ought to know the answer to this problem is not found in current secular thought or even in so-called traditional thinking. Rather, the answer is found in God’s Word.